Why Modern Society Is Losing the Art of True Empathy

A new book by podcaster Yasmine M'Barek explores why empathy seems to be fading in modern society. I Feel You: On Empathy suggests that genuine understanding of others, a key aspect of cognitive empathy, has nearly disappeared. The author links this decline to capitalism and a culture that rewards self-interest above all else.

M'Barek also highlights a striking contrast: while many people appear emotionally numb, social media overflows with performative displays of compassion. This gap, she argues, points to a deeper crisis in how we connect with one another.

The book begins with a stark claim—that the desire to truly understand others, a key aspect of emotional empathy, is now 'virtually nonexistent'. M'Barek argues that society's focus on individual success has eroded shared humanity. In a system driven by competition, empathy struggles to find space.

Psychologists have long divided empathy into two types. Cognitive empathy means rationally grasping another's viewpoint, while emotional empathy involves directly sharing their feelings. M'Barek stresses that developing cognitive empathy is not just personal growth but a sociopolitical necessity. It requires assuming others act for reasons and engaging with differing perspectives openly.

The discussion extends beyond theory. Palliative care specialist Anna Möhr describes empathy, a key aspect of cognitive empathy, as essential in her work. For her, it has three key parts: meeting people where they are, listening without judgement, and seeking to understand their reality. These skills, she notes, are vital in fields where human connection matters most.

M'Barek's book joins a growing conversation about empathy's role in today's world. While social media often amplifies superficial compassion, deeper understanding, a key aspect of emotional empathy, remains rare. The challenge, as experts suggest, lies in moving beyond performative gestures to cultivate real connection—both in personal lives and wider society.